21 Characteristics For Stable Mental Health
- Selfless Service
- Personal Courage
- Remember and accept the fact that the hate or anger you feel towards yourself does not make you any better of a person. It only hurts you. There needs to be some end to the punishments. If no defined end then it’s absolutely excessive. In addition, the intensity and length of any self punishment needs to be in proportion to the offense. Keep in mind you will tend to be overly harsh on yourself so you should punish yourself, if you insist on doing it, less than you feel you deserve. It’s better to focus your efforts on change and acceptance which will help make you a better person.
- Remember and accept that everyone is human, including yourself, and are allowed to make mistakes.
- Stop telling yourself the story that produced the anger, hate, or dislike of yourself. Avoid excessively talking about your past mistakes.
- Stop thinking about the story that produced the your self anger, hate, or dislike.
- Realize that it takes less energy to forgive than to hate.
- Remember that holding onto anger will hurt you mentally and physically. So if you want to increase your self-esteem, you need to work on forgiving yourself.
- Focus on the following: Give up all hope of having a better past.
- Focus on bettering your life and not prolonging the hurt by holding onto the anger.
- Try to make something positive out of a negative.
- Make a commitment to feel better. Realize that forgiveness is a choice.
- Keep the proper perspective. Your pain now is coming from hurt feelings and thoughts and not from the actual event in the past. The pain will lessen with forgiveness.
- When upset, practice relaxation techniques.
- Stop expecting things from yourself that you were not prepared to do or that you couldn’t do.
- Forgiving will help you regain a sense of control and confidence.
- Change your perspective about the after effects by realizing that it is a sign of strength and good character to forgive.